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Old age, senility, and life in general

Posted: Sat Mar 07, 2015 5:26 pm
by shaza
My dad is 84.5 years old. He is a retired veteran who has Parkinson's due to his exposure to Agent Orange Vietnam (or so the army says I guess) as well as dementia. I don't know if the two are related but I can imagine neurological deterioration generally means dementia.

Anyways. My dump here is just that it's hard to watch someone you love who is so very intelligent literally lose his mind. Some days the conversation is really quite coherent and together and other days he babbles on about the devil, death and how he's ready to go and he'll see us on the Other Side.

I don't really know how to cope with all this sometimes. I am single, I live alone. My oldest brother had a stroke about 7 years back and is in the same nursing home as my Dad... but even less coherent than he is.

My second brother lives at my Dad's house. It was a difficult birth... he was yanked out by forceps... there was brain damage. We don't get along too well.

My other brother - who I am close to - has is own troubles too - his ex-wife is on the sex offenders register after chasing around after a 17 year old boy.... so I don't like to burden him too much. I think we have an understanding of stress referral. We talk - but not too much so we don't both explode from the stress of it.

Anyways - just dumping all that here because I don't feel I have anywhere else to go to.

xxx

Re: Old age, senility, and life in general

Posted: Sat Mar 07, 2015 6:27 pm
by lenawest
My family was dysfunctional, too. Mentally and physically. Mom died young, dad decided I was mom pretty quickly. Had so many heart attacks and strokes he didn't know what year it was at the end. Sis thinks I am mom, by way that i do everything. She works and pays her bills, but I'm the caretaker. Brother isn't allowed at my place. He's just like Carries current hassle.

Re: Old age, senility, and life in general

Posted: Mon Mar 09, 2015 3:26 am
by Honeybun
Parkinson's does affect the mind unfortunately, my grandfather has it and he's a shell of the man he used to be :(.

Re: Old age, senility, and life in general

Posted: Thu Mar 12, 2015 1:58 am
by Ireneb
Hi Shaza

That is a big load to carry for you. The dementia thing is really difficult. We've got two cases in our family now (one because of old age, another as a side effect of motor neurone disease) and I know it's very tough.

There is a charity called the Contented Dementia Trust who have a different approach on how we as relatives and friends can deal with it, if that's of any help. It arose out of a book written by Oliver James, the psychologist. http://www.contenteddementiatrust.org/

Re: Old age, senility, and life in general

Posted: Fri Mar 20, 2015 3:19 pm
by shaza
Thanks - I'll look into it

Re: Old age, senility, and life in general

Posted: Sun May 31, 2015 8:31 pm
by Dandelion
I hope you are getting some help with your heavy burdens...that's a lot for one person to deal with.